Being happy with who you are and what you have, is a decision that has to be consciously made.
Goals can help lead to happiness and finding laughter in life is important. But at the end of the day, we make the choice about happiness. We agree we want it, deserve it to have it.
“Folks are about as happy as they make their minds up to be.”
We can be happy when we have something to strive for and something to laugh about. But is that it?
Can people with goals and a sense of humour still be unhappy? Hell yeah!
After all, the final key to happiness is the decision to actually be happy. Human nature can see negative energy anywhere. People can fixate on problems instead of solutions. So at the end of the day, we each make the choice to be happiness
8 THINGS TO GIVE UP TO RAISE YOUR HAPPINESS
Limiting Beliefs Keep Us Stuck.
These little suckers can become so 'comfortable within the uncomfortableness we come to accept these as being who we are.
Do any of these resonate with you - lack of motivation, procrastination, time poor, too busy, don't have what it takes, too late or too old for change? Through becoming more aware, you too can realise these self sabotaging thoughts.
Release self sabotaging thoughts.- Dwelling on the Past and Worrying about the future
Do you find yourself playing the same scenario over and over and over in your mind, that's it's taken on a life of it's own, all consuming?
Or you may be worrying about your future and how bleak it looks from here?
Consider the situation as if you have just two stations on your TV or car stereo, you like neither, but that's all there is and you prefer this to silence?
Turn them off.
- Negative Self Talk
This is the talk that can often runs inside our head and causes us to arrive at a destination with no recall on how we got there because we're so busy up top - yes caught up in our head to even notice the route. I'm not tall enough, skinny enough, smart enough, attractive enough, rich enough - you get the picture?
Instead, become present.
- Seeking Approval
When we look to others for the OK to proceed rather than going for it, we run the risk of coming up short. This can range from going for a new job, moving to a new location, starting a business, buying the car of your dreams, leaving that relationship or starting the new one. Why is it we need others to confirm it's a great idea?
In your heart you know you want it!
- Complaining
We don't have to go too far to hear or see someone complaining. Next time you find yourself complaining consider this. ''Will my comments improve the situation or dump a problem on the other person?" The distinction is this ~ to improve a situation you'll offer up one or two ways to improve what is. I love it when people come to me with solutions rather than dump their problems.
Be the solution.
- The Need to Always Be Right
What price are you paying to be right? Are you basing your argument on a story or facts? There's more often many versions of the same event and it just takes one person to take a stand to demonstrate there are multiple points of view. Consider next time you're wanting to state your version of being right - is what I'm saying balanced or one sided?
Change your perspective.
- Resistance to Change
I've done it this way and that's how it stays. The definition of insanity is "doing more of the same and expecting a different result."
How open are you to change? Does change excite you or drive you into the bushes to hide out? What is it about change that scares you and how can you flip that thought to become excited?
The new way of being.
- Blaming Others
What is there to be gained through blaming others? At some level we play a part in what happens to us. It's not what happened to us that matters, it's what we do about what happens to us that matters. I'm yet to see good come out of finger pointing so instead give acknowledging "I played a role in this" and tune into how that feels.
Blame is an empty game.
“Happiness depends on ourselves.”
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Till next week, get a little practice being happy :)
The bad news is time flies. The good news if you're the pilot. - Mark Althuser